Since sex is a major influence in our culture, children tend to form their own opinions, whether influenced by parents and information OR media, myths, and misinformation. That’s why it’s up to us to step up and start having real talks with our kids about real issues concerning sex, gender identity, body image, and all the related age-appropriate issues. Educate Empower Kids, a nonprofit organization dedicated to the education and advancement of families, wrote a book for parents to guide us through these issues entitled “30 Days of Sex Talks: Empowering Your Child with Knowledge of Sexual Intimacy.”
The idea of being open and honest with our kids about human sexuality sounds great in theory. In practice, however, a lot of us fear the AWKWARDNESS. I know I did. That is until tuned in parent and board member of Educate Empower Kids Amanda Grossman-Scott wrote her guest post for us, Tips for Raising Kids Who Understand Healthy Sexuality. After that, I wanted to read “30 Days of Sex Talks,” of which Amanda is one of the authors. And now I want to share it with you.
Our kids are regularly confronted with hypersexualized images, photo manipulation in advertising, unhealthy perceptions of sexuality … And that’s just a Saturday afternoon at the mall. It’s why I found the book’s presentation of human sexuality as natural, beautiful, and a necessary part of life quite refreshing. A healthy understanding and perspective of sex is vital to our children’s development, including their self-esteem, body image, future relationships, and how they respect, view, and treat themselves and the opposite sex. Therefore, knowing how to effectively communicate with them on these issues is KEY. Wouldn’t you agree?
When the media focuses on the negative or dramatized aspects of sex and relationships, “30 Days of Sex Talks” helps us focus our children on healthy relationships, emotional intimacy, and a positive attitude toward making real connections and smart choices.
Imagine a whole generation raised with a positive understanding of human sexuality and armed with smart decisions!
The goal of the book is to encourage education and communication, meeting a child’s curiosity and questions with real answers, not embarrassment, which implies shame. It’s all about being confident, open, and fostering trust between parents and children. And I love that; though it’s not always easy.
The book is super easy to follow. All topics are presented in an age-appropriate manner. There are three books for parents to choose from, depending on the maturity level their children: Volume 1 (for ages 3-7), Volume 2 (for ages 8-11) — this is book I’m reviewing for you today, and Volume 3 (for children 12+).
Some topics are expected: male and female anatomy, puberty, healthy versus unhealthy relationships, body image and self-esteem. Others may cause some parents to pause, especially those who are uncomfortable saying things like “sexual intercourse,” “masturbation,” or “pornography,” never mind discussing these topics with their children.
That is the whole point of “30 Days of Sex Talks,” though, isn’t it? Removing the taboo from such subjects and guiding parents through conversations that shape young minds, making sex talks about communication and comprehension, not embarrassment or shame. It’s rather empowering.
- different kinds of families
- gender roles and sexual identification
- children do NOT have sex
- what to do if something has happened to you
- how predators groom children
- how to say “NO” and listen to your instincts
- sexting and social media
- pregnancy and more
At some point, someone will be talking to our kids about sex. Who better than us parents? And if we can make our children feel safe enough to talk to us about these things, they’re more likely to talk to us about anything.
You can start or continue the conversation with 30 Days of Sex Talks.