A Mom’s Struggle with Postpartum Body Image and Weight-Loss

Jules Ruud, blogger at One Ruud Mom, bravely shares with us her struggle with an unhealthy body image that began in childhood and peaked recently after the birth of her second son. The combination of her postpartum body image pressure and her newfound determination to change her mindset and her lifestyle inspired her to share her story with us. Jules’ video post below is refreshing; it’s real; and it’s raw.

“I don’t want my kids to grow up with a mom that hates how she looks.” ~Jules Ruud

I love how she admits that her desire to be healthy and happy with her appearance isn’t enough to drive her to that goal. Her kids, however, and her desire to be a good example of health and happiness for them IS the impetus for her newfound determination.

“My children growing up with a healthy and happy mom. That is what motivates me.” ~Jules Ruud

We would love to feature your input in our follow-up piece to Jules’ guest post. Please share your thoughts on the following in comments or via our contact form to be included:

  • Do/did you struggle with your body image? How do/did you cope?
  • Do you agree that the media is to blame for setting unrealistic body images for women?
  • What can we do as parents to raise children with a healthy body image?
  • And don’t forget to reach out to Jules herself. She would love your support, tips, thoughts, and to hear your story, too!
Thank you for being tuned in parents. A special thanks to Jules Ruud at One Ruud Mom.I welcome your parenting and health tips, stories, recipes, quotes, comments, suggestions, and real kid quips! Follow us here and on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest.

-Elle C. Mayberry

About Elle C. Mayberry

Elle C. Mayberry is a mom and author, who just released a new children's book with her young daughter. With a passion for parenting and degrees in psychology and "make it workology," she created Tuned In Parents (TiP).

0 comments on “A Mom’s Struggle with Postpartum Body Image and Weight-Loss

  1. Good luck in your journey, Jules! You have a beautiful soul, and you are so brave to share your struggles openly. So many of us can relate and appreciate you starting the conversation on healthy body image. I’ve struggled with this throughout the years, and I’m working on a lifestyle change as well. Being healthy is the key, so you are on the right track!

    Thanks for sharing Jules’ story with us, Elle!

    • Thank you so much Sharisse. I am trying not to be so hard on myself for taking so long to get here. More than wanting to make my kids proud, I want to raise men that see women as so much more, that see all people in general as so much more than their looks. Please know that I am here if you need any support as you make changes. Lord knows I’ll need it and there’s nothing better than being in this journey with others who get it.

  2. This is a beautiful and brave post, Jules! I think we live in a society obsessed with weight and how we look, and I agree that unrealistic expectations are placed on us. As the mom of a daughter, I want her to always know she is beautiful, inside and out, and like you I want to model that for her. There are so many different ways to define beauty, and I have faith that you are going to teach that to your boys.

    • I know I put so much pressure on myself because body image starts at home. It starts with how a child’s parents see themselves and I let that get to me. Having two sons at home I feel like the way I see myself will shape not only how they see themselves, but how they see women, and THAT is why I am so hard on myself. I do love following your advice from your scopes, though and it has honestly made me feel better. You are so inspiring Kristen!

  3. It’s a struggle… I feel anxious about my weight and fitness, but I want my daughter to have a positive body image so I try not to let her see my own worries and insecurities. I’m planning on starting to work out more, which I hope will inspire my kids to be healthier as well. Thanks for sharing this post at the Manic Mondays blog hop!

    • Mommy A to Z, you’ve touched on something here. Putting on a brave face and hiding our struggles from our kids is a HUGE part of being a good parent. The other part is taking action to conquer those struggles. And you’re doing just that. Isn’t it wonderfully ironic that our kids, from whom we hide our worries, are our biggest motivation to overcome them? Thank you for sharing. -Elle C.

  4. Jules, I could have made that video nearly word for word. It is such a hard struggle. I had lots of body image issues before I became a mother, but it really went through the roof once my daughter was born. I felt like I was ruined and was determined that my partner would no longer find me attractive. I cried nearly every time I saw myself in a mirror. It’s an awful place to be in. But, like you, my daughter is the very reason I’ve been working so hard to change the way I view myself. I never want her to feel that way about herself! It is SO important that we all band together around this issue and start exploring it in a healthy manner in order eliminate the feeling of being alone in this struggle and help each other find acceptance.

    • I can relate to that feeling of being ruined. I didn’t know I’d put it that way but reading it I realized, yes. That’s exactly how I feel. I can only imagine the pressure I would feel having a daughter at home. Having two boys, I feel like it’s my job to teach my sons how they should treat and look at other women. I’m blessed to have friends like you who let me vent my struggle and who support me. Thanks so much homework for being there for me.

  5. I am feeling this. I have and 18 month old and I obsess about my weight. I have PPD turned plain depression and that makes my health goals feel further out of reach. I finally got rid of my scale so that I can focus on other things and so that my daughter doesn’t catch me on it several times a day. It’s nice to know about others’ struggles.

    • My biggest struggle is not letting my kids see this. I wouldn’t trade them for the world, but it was so much easier to suffer through this alone. I hate that you can relate to my struggle, but we’re in this together. I’m here however you need me. Even if it’s just to check in. Thanks for sharing a piece of your story with me.

    • Thank you for reaching out, Chantal. You’re not alone by a long shot, though depression is infamous for making you feel that way. According to the CDC, up to 19% of women report frequent PPD episodes, and 4% of fathers, too. In fact, approximately 21% of fathers also report experiencing depression by the time their children are 12 years old! And, the Huffington Post reports, women are 70% more likely than men to experience depression. Worldwide, 350 million people report being affected by depression in some way. So, Chantal, though your struggle is real and unique to your circumstances, it would seem you are quite normal. Keep setting your goals. They are within your reach. ~Elle C.

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