Body Image (Part 2): Changing Beauty Standards

Do you have a healthy body image? If your goal is to be skinny when your body type (lifelong or postpartum) is otherwise, you may be working against yourself. Sound familiar? You’re far from alone.

Whether you’ve just had a baby, want to fit into that dress, or have struggled with weight your whole life, you may have noticed that focusing on losing weight instead of getting healthy is a one-way ticket on the weight-loss (and confidence) roller coaster. And that is no thrill ride. So why do we do it? To meet unrealistic beauty standards set by . . . society?

Women are kind of a big part of society. And moms are arguably its most influential members. Therefore, what happens if we — I dunno — change those beauty standards? If we start by changing how we see and treat ourselves, we might just change how society sees and treats us all.

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Last week, Jules Ruud shared a bold and touching video with us about her personal struggle with postpartum body image. And I wanted to include the feedback we received in this follow-up post.

Chantal shared: “I finally got rid of my scale so that I can focus on other things and so that my daughter doesn’t catch me on it several times a day. It’s nice to know about others’ struggles.”

Bev Feldman @Linkouture shared: “I think we live in a society obsessed with weight and how we look, and I agree that unrealistic expectations are placed on us. As the mom of a daughter, I want her to always know she is beautiful, inside and out, and like [Jules Ruud] I want to model that for her. There are so many different ways to define beauty. . .”

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MaggieMaysGifts shared: “It’s so true that we have to think about everything we say (about ourselves and others) in front of our kids. They absorb everything!”

Brandyn shared: “I had lots of body image issues before I became a mother, but it really went through the roof once my daughter was born. . . . [M]y daughter is the very reason I’ve been working so hard to change the way I view myself. I never want her to feel that way about herself! It is SO important that we all band together around this issue and start exploring it in a healthy manner in order eliminate the feeling of being alone in this struggle and help each other find acceptance.”

“To lose confidence in one’s body is to lose confidence in oneself.” ~ Simone de Beauvoir

Mommy A to Z shared: “It’s a struggle… I feel anxious about my weight and fitness, but I want my daughter to have a positive body image so I try not to let her see my own worries and insecurities. I’m planning on starting to work out more, which I hope will inspire my kids to be healthier as well.”

Sharisse @Savvy Sweet Life shared: “So many of us can relate and appreciate you starting the conversation on healthy body image. I’ve struggled with this throughout the years, and I’m working on a lifestyle change as well. Being healthy is the key.”

mommyinsports asked an excellent question: “It’s so hard, but we put so much pressure on ourselves. WHY is that?”

This is a conversation that is being started by a brave few and needs to be spread by all of us who are a part of it, either directly by experience, or indirectly by raising children who can benefit from our efforts to restore appreciation for the natural female form.

Thank you for being tuned in parents. A special thanks to the brave moms driving this conversation. We welcome you to join in, pass this along to your friends, however you feel comfortable spreading the message: a healthy body is a beautiful body, period.

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-Elle C. Mayberry

About Elle C. Mayberry

Elle C. Mayberry is a mom and author, who just released a new children's book with her young daughter. With a passion for parenting and degrees in psychology and "make it workology," she created Tuned In Parents (TiP).

5 comments on “Body Image (Part 2): Changing Beauty Standards

  1. So true! It’s not exclusively a mom issue. It’s a FAMILY issue, isn’t it? Thank you for being the brave dad to bring up this IMPORTANT point. -Elle C.

  2. This is an issue that affects the whole family. Dads need to embrace it too, we love our wives, our daughters, all the women in our family deserve our respect.

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  4. This is amazing. It’s refreshing to see so many of us working towards the same goals when it comes to these issues. Thank you for sharing my comment and, of course, for sharing with us at #mommymeetupmondays!

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