“Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” -Napoleon Hill
It’s okay for kids to feel disappointment after their mistakes, failures, and oopsies. It’s not okay to shame them or expect them to repress their emotions. Processing feelings in a healthy manner is natural and necessary.
What’s WONDERFUL is how much they can learn and improve from each failed attempt. Talking about what they’ve learned and encouraging them to apply it by trying again is a great way to raise confident kids bound for success!
Tip: Try asking your child(ren), “If you could do it all over again, what would you do differently?” This helps them learn from the mistake. In addition, it encourages them to look forward to trying again, using what was learned from this time around.
Practice this enough . . .
- validating the healthy expression of feelings,
- treating their mistakes and failures as learning opportunities,
- talking about what they learned and what they would do differently if given a do-over
. . . and soon it will be an automatic response whenever the kids “mess up.” (This can be applied to us parents, too!)
Not stressing out over mistakes, finding a path to success in every failure . . . wouldn’t that make life exponentially easier and more enjoyable?